The Sound of Hope: An Adoptee's Memoir
“The day I realized I had two mothers, I was cut in half. One mother had had me in her belly and brought me to the special nursery, while this mother I called Mommy took me home from the nursery to live. One half of myself resided here with my family, and the other half was lost, lost to a shadowy woman floating somewhere out there in the world… You see, I’m adopted.”
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"...Her story is unforgettable." -Kathleen Daley for the Star-Ledger
"Bauer’s yearning to understand her past the journey of her search and the resulting complexities make for captivating storytelling..... Bauer is able to make a personal narrative feel like a universal truth." ForeWord Review
Monday, November 28, 2016
#flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee
This week I am featured on Lori Lavender Luz's adoption blog: flipthescript series, where she again talks about my memoir along with some recent legal updates concerning the upcoming date in January, 2017 where adult adoptees born in New Jersey can have access to their original birth certificates. Original birth certificates in the state of New Jersey are currently still under lock and key. Click here to read and go to Lori's page.
Saturday, November 12, 2016
Adult Adoptees in NJ will have access to their original Birth Certificates in January 2017!
It's finally going to happen for adult adopted individuals in New Jersey-access to our very own original birth certificate. Even though I am in reunion with both my birth mother and birth father for over twenty years, I still do not have the legal right to view or access my own original certificates that pertain to me-my life, my own birth. That is until this January!
Although I haven't been the biggest fan of Governor Chris Christie, I will say thank you from the bottom of my heart to him and the NJ state legislature for passing this bill. I am deeply grateful to them for allowing adult adopted individuals to have the right and the dignity to obtain their own personal records.
For those adopted in NJ here is where to go to access your own original birth certificate:
http://nj-care.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/reg-41-newjersey-original-birth-certificate-application.pdf
Once you downloaded and filled out the form, mail to:
Although I haven't been the biggest fan of Governor Chris Christie, I will say thank you from the bottom of my heart to him and the NJ state legislature for passing this bill. I am deeply grateful to them for allowing adult adopted individuals to have the right and the dignity to obtain their own personal records.
For those adopted in NJ here is where to go to access your own original birth certificate:
http://nj-care.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/reg-41-newjersey-original-birth-certificate-application.pdf
Once you downloaded and filled out the form, mail to:
Office of Vital Statistics and Registry
Adoption Request Unit
PO Box 370
Trenton, NJ 08625-0370
Adoption Request Unit
PO Box 370
Trenton, NJ 08625-0370
You need to include two additional things:
- Proof of Identity (acceptable forms of identity listed in in the instructions section of the application form)
- $25.00 check made out to the State Treasurer of New Jersey
Thank you New Jersey!!!!!
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Reviews Needed!
Its been a while since I last posted and a while since I received a review for my memoir. If you feel so inclined, please leave a review on either Amazon or Barnes & Noble or on GoodReads, all are welcome and much appreciated :)
Will be posting soon about the upcoming date when New Jersey born adoptees will finally have access to their original birth certificates!! Woo hoo!!
Will be posting soon about the upcoming date when New Jersey born adoptees will finally have access to their original birth certificates!! Woo hoo!!
Monday, March 16, 2015
Ohio set to open adoption records sealed for 50 years
Way to go Ohio!!! I wish New jersey went into effect this quickly, I have to wait until January of 2017 to request my original birth certificate. Hope all those adults adopted in Ohio receive the vital information they are searching for...
Click here to read the article
Click here to read the article
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Apart at the Seams Book Tour
Great story-line, wonderful characters....
What a delightful read. This was the first book I've read
from Melissa Ford and the story had me so engrossed that I'm looking forward
to reading the companion books to Apart
at the Seams.
Melissa’s writing quickly draws you into the life of the main character, Arianna, who is a single mother by choice who juggles motherhood, her career in the fashion industry and adjusting to the recent move of her boyfriend into her apartment. Arianna wants to remain single and independent despite pressure from her boyfriend to marry. In addition to being overwhelmed by the demands of single parenting while trying to advance her career, she meets Noah who seems to be the perfect fit for Arianna. They both share similar interests and similar views about marriage leaving Arianna to question her relationship and comparability with Ethan. The story seems predictable at first, and I found myself rooting for Noah along the way, but surprisingly the ending turns out to be much different than what I expected.
Melissa’s writing quickly draws you into the life of the main character, Arianna, who is a single mother by choice who juggles motherhood, her career in the fashion industry and adjusting to the recent move of her boyfriend into her apartment. Arianna wants to remain single and independent despite pressure from her boyfriend to marry. In addition to being overwhelmed by the demands of single parenting while trying to advance her career, she meets Noah who seems to be the perfect fit for Arianna. They both share similar interests and similar views about marriage leaving Arianna to question her relationship and comparability with Ethan. The story seems predictable at first, and I found myself rooting for Noah along the way, but surprisingly the ending turns out to be much different than what I expected.
- Arianna tells Rachel, "I think there are people we
should be with at different stages in our life, and maybe those stages
stretch on for fifty years or maybe they're over in a few months" as
a reason for not considering marriage. Do you think not knowing the span a
relationship may last is reason enough to not commit completely?
I don’t feel that Arianna has problems with commitment. At
the beginning of the story, she asked her boyfriend to move in and planned on
being in the relationship for the long run. She wants to have a significant other in her
life sharing living space, day to day life and all the responsibilities that come with it. To me
that is committing completely. What I feel Arianna has problems with is the
institution of marriage. Just because
you get married does not guarantee a long committed relationship. The divorce
rate in America is over 50% and many marriages end before the third year. Arianna is a mature, independent woman who can survive on her own with or without a man. I feel this sense of her independence has led Arianna to feel that she doesn't need a piece of paper to feel committed to a relationship. Her life experiences of living and working in the City and being a single mom contributes to her desire to remain committed to a relationship without the need for a legal document.
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- It feels as though Arianna would become
irritated with Ethan for not doing things she needed him to do yet she often
wouldn't verbalize clearly what it was she wanted or needed. Why do you think
asking for exactly what you need makes you feel so vulnerable?
To continue to the next leg
of this book tour, please visit the main list at LavenderLuz.com.http://lavenderluz.com
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Christie signs Adoptee Birthright Bill!!
It's official, yesterday NJ Governor Chris Christie signed the Adoptee Birthright Bill which will give adult individuals who were adopted in New Jersey access to their own original birth certificate. Access does not start until 2017. Christie wanted to give birth-parents time to contact the state if they want any identifying information removed for their privacy. What a great compromise! I am so happy and so looking forward to actually seeing my original birth certificate. What do you think about this new bill?
Sunday, April 13, 2014
Kindle Available again!
Wow, Amazon fixed that bug very quickly, very thankful to them for such a quick response. Memoir is back up and available on the Kindle Website.
Spring is finally here in the Northeast, it's been a long, cold Winter but warmer days are ahead.
Have a great Day today and Happy reading all.
Spring is finally here in the Northeast, it's been a long, cold Winter but warmer days are ahead.
Have a great Day today and Happy reading all.
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