Next Generation Indie Book Award Finalist for Autobiography/Memoirs (2009)

Editor’s Choice award and Rising Star Designation and is now part of Barnes & Noble’s Special Collections, “Catch A Rising Star”, a page dedicated to finding Up-And-Coming Authors.


"...Her story is unforgettable." -Kathleen Daley for the Star-Ledger


"Bauer’s yearning to understand her past the journey of her search and the resulting complexities make for captivating storytelling..... Bauer is able to make a personal narrative feel like a universal truth." ForeWord Review

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Apart at the Seams Book Tour

Great story-line, wonderful characters....



What a delightful read. This was the first book I've read from Melissa Ford and the story had me so engrossed that I'm looking forward to reading the companion books to Apart at the Seams.

Melissa’s writing quickly draws you into the life of the main character, Arianna, who is a single mother by choice who juggles motherhood, her career in the fashion industry and adjusting to the recent move of her boyfriend into her apartment. Arianna wants to remain single and independent despite pressure from her boyfriend to marry. In addition to being overwhelmed by the demands of single parenting while trying to advance her career, she meets Noah who seems to be the perfect fit for Arianna. They both share similar interests and similar views about marriage leaving Arianna to question her relationship and comparability with Ethan. The story seems predictable at first, and I found myself rooting for Noah along the way, but surprisingly the ending turns out to be much different than what I expected. 

  • Arianna tells Rachel, "I think there are people we should be with at different stages in our life, and maybe those stages stretch on for fifty years or maybe they're over in a few months" as a reason for not considering marriage. Do you think not knowing the span a relationship may last is reason enough to not commit completely?


I don’t feel that Arianna has problems with commitment. At the beginning of the story, she asked her boyfriend to move in and planned on being in the relationship for the long run. She wants to have a significant other in her life sharing living space, day to day life and all the responsibilities that come with it. To me that is committing completely. What I feel Arianna has problems with is the institution of marriage.  Just because you get married does not guarantee a long committed relationship. The divorce rate in America is over 50% and many marriages end before the third year. Arianna is a mature, independent woman who can survive on her own with or without a man. I feel this sense of her independence has led Arianna to feel that she doesn't need a piece of paper to feel committed to a relationship. Her life experiences of living and working in the City and being a single mom contributes to her desire to remain committed to a relationship without the need for a legal document. 
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  •   It feels as though Arianna would become irritated with Ethan for not doing things she needed him to do yet she often wouldn't verbalize clearly what it was she wanted or needed. Why do you think asking for exactly what you need makes you feel so vulnerable?
I got a sense that Arianna wanted Ethan to know what to do on his own and do it without having to be asked. This is the age old dilemma between a man and a woman living together, whether or not they are married. Many men feel that their partner will automatically clean up after them, pick up the dry-cleaning and clean the toilet bowl every week. If you don't ask them they won't do many of the household chores on their own. As I was reading the story, I wanted to tell Arianna to just tell him what to do! I hate to give all men a bad rap as some men do figure it out on their own and automatically help out without being asked but from my own life experiences and the experiences of many women that I know, men need some nudging. I got a sense that it wasn't because Arianna felt she would lose her independence by asking Ethan to help out, but that she was just irritated that she had to tell him what to do in the first place. I felt frustrated along with Arianna.


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Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Christie signs Adoptee Birthright Bill!!

It's official, yesterday NJ Governor Chris Christie signed the Adoptee Birthright Bill which will give adult individuals who were adopted in New Jersey access to their own original birth certificate. Access does not start until 2017. Christie wanted to give birth-parents time to contact the state if they want any identifying information removed for their privacy.  What a great compromise! I am so happy and so looking forward to actually seeing my original birth certificate.  What do you think about this new bill?

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Kindle Available again!

Wow, Amazon fixed that bug very quickly, very thankful to them for such a quick response.  Memoir is back up and available on the Kindle Website.
Spring is finally here in the Northeast, it's been a long, cold Winter but warmer days are ahead.
Have a great Day today and Happy reading all.

Friday, April 11, 2014

Kindle Version down for a bit

Was just informed by Amazon that it may take up to 2-3 weeks to get my memoir back up and available on the Kindle version on their website.  They are having some technology problems. In the meantime it is still available on Nook (can download Nook app to all devices) and on iuniverse.com for their e-book edition.

Have a great day and Happy Reading!

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

The ACLU-NJ and their views about adoption

The ACLU-NJ, who opposes the Adult Adoptee Birthright Bill claiming that birthmothers were given the expectation of anonymity. In response to their position, to Carol Barbieri, who last week gave her opinion on how she feels the ACLU is wrong with their stance against this bill,  the ACLU lawyer responded yesterday at NJ.comClick here to read the post. 

My hope is that all adult adopted individuals in New Jersey (as well as all states) will have access to their own original information.

Please visit the webpages at NJ.com and please leave your comments on this issue.  Carol's original post can also be found at NJ.com http://www.nj.com/opinion/index.ssf/2014/02/aclu_is_wrong_on_adoptees_birthright_bill_opinion.html

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

PEAR, non-profit group dedicated to Adoption Reform

Ethics. Transparency. Support. What All Adoptions Deserve

PEAR stands for Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform.  I happened upon their website this morning and agreed with their statement regarding their view on open records for adult adoptees. With New Jersey once again moving forward with the Adoptee Birthright Bill I felt their statement worth noting. I copied and pasted their statement below:

Open Records Statement

PEAR supports unrestricted access to birth records for all adults adopted as minors. We do not believe any citizen should be discriminated against by removing the right to obtain their personal, official documents. We oppose the imposition of contact vetoes, court orders or third-party agency interference with an adoptee's right to access his or her original birth certificate.
Adoption should be about the formation of a family for the benefit and best interests of children, not the destruction of identity. As an organization we will support clean legislation submitted in any state that seeks to achieve the goal of opening records

Definitely an organization I will be looking into.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Poll: Should NJ pass a bill allowing adopted people to obtain birth certificates?

Should New Jersey lawmakers pass a bill that would allow adopted people to obtain their original birth certificates, revealing their biological parents' identity?  NJ.com posted this poll today asking this question. Please take a moment to vote.  I just voted...Yes, of course!!!